A Wisdom and Happiness Digest for you (Forgiveness)

A Wisdom and Happiness Digest for you (Forgiveness)

Greetings Good People!



My good friend Ralph Waller is one of the sweetest country philosophers you might ever run into. He lives "down yonder" and "up the road a bit" in Alamance County, North Carolina. 

He posted this recently and when I saw it, I just had to ask to reprint it for you.


Ralph Waller and Dot

How tight is the knot around your beliefs? By Ralph Waller


I hate with a passion having to try and untie a “hard” knot. Doesn’t matter if it’s shoes or a fishing line. A hard knot, especially if binding something special or something needed in a hurry, almost gives me a panic attack. But, when I eventually get the hard knot untied, the feeling is amazing. It’s right up there with Christmas mornings. 

If I compare life with hard knots, I know I personally have had to struggle to untie many knots. The really hard ones are the ones I pulled the tightest, thinking I would never have to undo it in the future. The knots that bind truth and loyalty. An old gospel song speaks to this kind of binding. I imagine a well-tightened knot in our beliefs can be healthy sometimes, but when that belief is weakened or new knowledge enlightens us, how hard is it to untie that knot? Have we tightened it so much that we just decided to give up on the obvious because the struggle to change is too difficult?

My experiences have taught me to tie my knots loosely. Make the knot just tight enough to serve the purpose. Maybe I’ll have to come back occasionally and snug them up, but that’s just life. I may even have to just untie some knots and leave them untied. 

I remember my mamaw Waller calling me a knothead as a child. I sort of understand why now.  


God bless… 

Practice of the week


Eight Essentials When Forgiving


We have all suffered hurts and betrayals. Choosing to forgive is a way to release the distress that arises again and again from the memory of these incidents—but forgiveness is often a long and difficult process. This exercise outlines several steps that are essential to the process of forgiveness, breaking it down into manageable components. These steps were created by Robert Enright, Ph.D., one of the world’s leading forgiveness researchers.  

Although the exact process of forgiveness may look different for different people, most anyone can still draw upon Dr. Enright’s basic principles. In certain cases, it may help to consult a trained clinician, especially if you are working through a traumatic event.


Learn more about this practice here:

Eight Essentials When Forgiving

Video of the week

 Take a few minutes to watch Jason Silva explain


This is a soul-shaking, heart stirring suggestion for us to become intentional about searching out and bringing beauty into our lives.


Click on image to open video

Happy Wall of the week

Science article of the week

Can gratitude reduce your stress at work?


A new study suggests that expressing gratitude at work helps people have better stress responses during challenging tasks.

Expressing gratitude nurtures our relationships, helping us to feel closer to our friends and romantic partners.


Some research suggests that grateful people seem to cope better with stress and enjoy superior physical health, perhaps because of those stronger social relationships. What about experiencing gratitude with people we don’t know so well—like, those we work with?

Could showing appreciation towards them affect our stress levels on the job? A new study aimed to find out.

Read the entire article at:

Can gratitude reduce your stress at work (berkeley.edu)


Bob's Blog

Last week I went to my wife’s family reunion. Along with the usual suspects was 92-year-old Betty, the oldest member and matriarch of the clan. Betty’s story should be a movie. Herbert Hoover’s FBI recruited her during the depression out of a West Virginia holler. She had never traveled more than a few miles from the gen’rl store down the road, and all alone, she bordered her 17-year-old self on a bus to Washington, DC. 

She oversaw the development of fingerprint identification records, and her stories are hundredfold.

Bob Martin

Now, every year she comes with a walker and a slight tremble in her voice to the reunion. Her eyes are bright and follow every movement. Her expressions show awe and wonder at everything, and her smile always seems to be meant just for you.

She saw me working at the computer in the corner of the dining room and came over, “What are you doing pecking away at that thing?”


“Well, Betty, I’m growing a social network around wisdom and happiness.”

“That sounds interesting even though I haven’t a clue what that is. Show me”


So I pulled up a chair and showed her my Facebook page, how I find things to post, how I create a post and the likes, loves and comments. She oowed and ahhed and asked questions, and when she was done, she leaned back and said, ”Whew, I really don’t understand it, but it seems like a lot of work. Why do you do it?”


“Well, Betty, I have been blessed with great teachers and wonderful experiences. Now that I have the time, I want to give something back, to share some lessons learned and some happiness – to contribute somehow.”

“Contributing is important, Bob. I don’t have the energy I used to have, and my voice isn’t as strong as it used to be, but with these youngins I hope I can still say something to them that helps contribute.” 


We sat for a moment, and I got a beep from the computer, turned to it and said offhandedly, “Oh, Betty, you never need to worry about that; whenever you just walk into a room, you brighten every face and lighten every heart – I’d call that contributing.”

The silence got my attention, so I looked up. She was looking at me with the sweetest smile and the softest eyes that had teared up. I kinda teared up, too.

Then she took a deep breath, wiped the tear away, reached out, gently touched my arm, and mouthed, ‘Thank you.” Then she gathered herself up, took hold of her walker handles and shuffled off to the other side of the room to see what God was doing over there.


...That’s Betty. 


Expert of the week 

Please Meet:  Jack Kornfield, PH.D.


Jack is one of the most beloved meditation teachers and advocates for living with an open heart. 


He studied with the world's most venerable  Buddhist teachers in the jungles of Asia.  He returned to America and established the Spirit Mountain Meditation Center. 


He is one of the key teachers that introduced Buddhist mindful practices to the West. 

Jack Kornfield

Everything about Jack speaks to his kindness, compassion and authenticity.

His books have been translated into 20 languages and sold over a million copies.Visit his website at:  JackKornfield.com


Watch Jack explain :

 The 12 Principles of Forgiveness

 Christian wisdom of the week

 Hindu wisdom of the week

Wise & Happy articles of the week

Embracing the ‘divine’ in our lives


As the story goes, deep in the forests of Lorraine, France, an Abbey was built in the 1500s. Over the years, the young monks had moved on, and new members were not attracted because of the lack of modernity. There were only five monks left, and they feared for the end of their Order.

The Abbott went to visit a wise Rabbi to seek advice. After explaining...

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